a virtual life

These days we have got two social lives. One in real world and other in virtual world of social networks like Facebook and/or  Twitter.

I was reading an article of why Facebook causes a new stress on users. http://www.opposingviews.com/i/new-report-facebook-causes-stress-depression-anxiety  and http://www.switched.com/2011/02/16/facebook-causes-stress-anxiety-hooks-us-anyway/

An important finding from one of the posts is

Charles speculated that many users may feel anxious because of the site’s intrinsically self-centered structure. “It’s like being a mini news channel about yourself. The more people you have the more you feel there is an audience there,” Charles told the BBC. “You are almost a mini celebrity and the bigger the audience the more pressure you feel to produce something about yourself.”

In short, Facebook tries to create a virtual but fake celebrity out of users, whatever might their real life be. By including photos, videos, quotes, events, Facebook is  like more of someone PRO promoting your personal life..publishing your details to world.

But in the end, we should always remember that Facebook is a virtual world. Whenever you log into Facebook, you invest time, bandwidth and personal data in it..which is obviously not free. Remember not to get carried away by frenzy of getting a ‘celeb’ status. It is very easy on Facebook to get influenced by someone more elite then you and you can waste lot of positive energy attempting to be like them.

I found out some old tips that will help you to stay updated with everyone without getting bogged down by all the information Facebook hurls at you.

1. RSS feeds – If you want to find out latest information about a product, technology, or anything, you just need to subscribe to their RSS feeds. A good thing about these feeds is that most of sites dont have ads in them, thus providing you with clutterless information. However, it might not take too long before companies bombard you with ads in RSS feeds

2. Email – Email is the reason why internet became popular. IM or real time communication is taking fight against email, but there is no substitute for emails as yet. Answering emails is more easy and more natural then replying to real time IM…not only emails allow you to think before answering, it is also more productive due to push mail services that are available on handsets, computers etc.

3. Be social in real life – It takes nothing extra to be nice with people..meet people. Maintain good relations with them. If you ever get into trouble, the real people you know will be the first to help you out.  Speaking and conversing with people  helps better then posting fancy updates.

4. Facebook is not the ultimate goal – Facebook is just another way to share things, its not the ultimate communication or the end point of what communication will be like. As we are evolving, we might have advanced tools at our disposal.