Live in relationship is fine with Maharashtra Government
The Maharashtra Government headed by Congressman Vilasrao Deshmukh and his ministers have okayed live in relationship..Live in relationship means people of opposite sex can have a relation without legal binding like marriage..
Live in relationship might be common or acceptable in western countries, but by watching numerous Hindi films, thsi is what I have a concept of what might be called a bollywood lifestyle.
1. Both, the girl and boy live in a seperate house, no parents to pester or poke their nose in their affairs..
2. They can have sex anytime, in any way, and usually the girl dosent want to get pregnant, but unfortunately, she does become pregnant..
3. Horrified, the guy leaves her and the poor girl, in tears, determines to raise the child..She cares a damm about others..
4. Finally, a good common friend of the guy and gurl playes the role of Guardian Angel and decides to bring them togather..which is difficult..
5. However, Mr Angel succeeds in bringing them togather, and everyones happy…
Hmm, this is perheps a little bit of a Bollywood Hindi film starring Saif Ali Khan and Preity Zinta. I found this film undoubtedly the most ridiculous thing i had ever seen, except of couple of Preity-Saif kisses(Wanted to see something more, Censor Board in India is dangerously strict..). But is this what the government wants in Maharashtra??
Actually, there are many people supporting age old marriage style and live in relations..
I am single and I have got no gurl friend, I will oppose it. If I had my girlfriend with me, I would have strongly welcomed it. I know, its double crossing, but this is what is life all about..India is widely known as a country with strong moral values and traditional integrity. Perhaps, that’s why bold exhibitions of romance go for a toss in such a typical society, least being something like live-in-relationships in India. The union of a man and a woman is considered as one of the most sacred acts in this country. No wonder, living together before marriage is a sour dampener for the staunch ethic upholders. However, the new millennium has ushered in great changes even within the country that has forever been enshrouded in a blanket of rich culture and heritage.
To be continued…
rameshraju, and 10 others are discussing. 
R.V.Ramani 5:03 pm on October 9, 2008 Permalink |
But in case the original boy with whom she was living earlier comes back who has the right to the child? Complications could arise if the person later marries somebody and this girl cannot get any compensation.
RVR
Harshad Joshi 5:15 pm on October 9, 2008 Permalink |
My bet is that many young couples wont support it.
Practically and economically, its unfeasible in India at this junction..
Sandesh 5:25 pm on October 9, 2008 Permalink |
nice info !!!
Harman 2:55 pm on October 11, 2008 Permalink |
its a matter of complete personal and individual choice. i dont see anything wrong or ridiculous or shameful in it. if the guy and the girl are adults, and are mature enough to take their decisions wisely knowing all the pros and the cons of the relationship then no one has the right to interfere or oppose their relationship. i have seen, read, heard people opposing it in the name of indian culture, ethics etc. which according to me is not an appropriate reason to object because then there are hundred thousands of things to object in the name of culture and ethics… our culture says “atithi devo bhava” which means that “our guest is like our god” but tourist women from the other countries are raped, duped and kidnapped! our ethics dont allow communalism but still every third day a temple or a church is demolished. our culture never allowed ill treatment of women but still women are considered just a sexual toy or birth giving machine! our culture doesnt allow child labour, corruption, child marriage and so many other things. all i would say is that be human, try and eradicate these black spots of our culture n our country and live in relationships wont harm our country or the culture or the ethics. live ans let live
rashmi 5:57 am on October 16, 2008 Permalink |
I second Harman’s view….
Honestly speaking, there are enough BASIC problems in India to take care of, rather than hampering personal freedom… and Obviously, couples deciding to live-in have enough brains to use contraceptive (condoms and Pills) while they are together… Unwanted pregnancies, one of major issues raised by people, don’t happen while couple live-in.. it happens when you forget contraception in the heat of passion…
I just wonder, how come, Our Dear MNS chief hasn’t spoken about evils of live-in as its against Indian or rather maharashtrian culture…. Oh! i forgot, he’s busy grounding Jet Flights… who is already fighting the economic crunch!!
LOL…OOps!!!
arpit pandey 8:14 am on October 16, 2008 Permalink |
From thousands of years india has reflected to whole world its moral values and strong traditions which actually differs the india from other countries. I strongly oppose the views of harman and rashmi, as they have left the great indian culture.
it is not about getting bifurcated from the convention,but whether the particular bifurcation is correct with respect to all dimensions of life or not .today the youth (not all) have left the correct values of life, that is why they demand to have such kind of unethical relationships.in my view any work done by me which i can not share with my parents is the wrong. society (whether ancient or contemporary) has always tried to pump the populist,but bad traditons from any nook and corner, and that’s what they are doing in this case. in the name of so called “hamperring of freedom” they want to have sexual pleasures,those who can not go to red light areas or there ego confronts them actually evolved this methods of satisfying there sexual needs.
i know one thing that live in relationships will never deter any events against women but will only degrade the society.
Harshad Joshi 9:02 am on October 16, 2008 Permalink |
I am not sure what the MH government has planned, but some people said that the government was trying to make a law which gives compensation to women in case her partner has abandoned her after a failed live in relationship. Its important to understand, that if a women gets pregnant in such a case, then who is liable to be called the father of that child? In a bid of saving grace, the government perheps wants to have a law that might help in prevention of woman exploitation in live-in relationships..Speaking in terms of legal practices, how to define what a live-in relation is?? Who will decide that its actually a live-in relation?? Is it enough that one guy and one girl stay together in one flat, and then without any paperwork or bond, its a legal live-in relationship? Or you need to have sex at least once so as to conform it as legal? What?? The complexities of this bill are more then what we can think…
I wonder, how many people actually opt for a ‘without marriage’, ‘without compulsion’ lifestyle in India? Very few to be precise..
There was no immediate need of introducing this bill as ther are so many other issues we are facing, like an economic meltdown in the making, poverty, high inflation rate, corruption, but politicos, who would prevent them from taking filmy hero steps?? Its said – ‘Prevention is better then cure’, why bothr preventing something thats higly unlikely to happen?? Maybe the govt thinks Live-in relationship is the next biggest problem looming ahead after the possible global economic meltdown…
Jerks..!!
rashmi 10:00 am on October 16, 2008 Permalink |
Mr. Pandey! You certainly are an “Idle” example of Indian Youth, who thinks visiting a prostitute and having unsafe sex is BETTER than having sex with a committed partner…!!
Good!!! India certainly needs PROGRESSIVE thinking like yours in this Economic Crunch …!! Sigh!!
Certainly, the Law is not as simple as it is made to sound!! Seemingly boom to the live-in female partner but nightmare for her boyfriend…. curse for a woman whose husband is having another live-in partner… This is certainly not the time to introduce it.. lets debate, talk, criticize, love, hate it…. introduction and passing will take years… may be when majority of our politicians will be of the next generation (age between 35-50)… not when majority of then are “senior citizens”
arpit pandey 5:58 am on October 21, 2008 Permalink |
i am amply thankful to rashmi that you supporrted my view,specially about the thought…. lets debate, talk, criticize, love, hate it…. but the greatest irony in our country is that,.,.,., .any law is passed with out any prerectifications and public concensus, and the people like us outbursts our rage through these public networking sites, alas,…. what else we can do, except spreading public awareness.
Arnab 5:23 am on October 29, 2008 Permalink |
I can’t believe some people are actually supporting this!
We need to draw a line in this westernization wave. Since the ancient time, marriage has been regarded a sacred element in India and Hinduism.
There is no credit in giving that up. The living together culture of the west has drove the divorce rate as close to as 50%. Indians take pride in having a strong & supporting family bond. Research has shown that kids that grow up with parents are more successful and confident than others.
If not culture then at least for the sake of the next generation we should keep the marriage tradition strong.
SaTaN 3:53 am on November 6, 2008 Permalink |
@Mr. Arpit Pandey,
From thousands of years india has reflected to whole world its moral values and strong traditions which actually differs the india from other countries.
Can you gimme ten examples of “moral values” which INDIA has reflected to the world, well I will give u some examples of “moral” values
Throwing garbage on the road
Jumping the red light and not following traffic disciplines
Rape and eve teasing of women
Inter-religion fights
Fights related because of ones mother tongue
in my view any work done by me which i can not share with my parents is the wrong.
Each time you will have sex with your wife, are you going to “share” with you parents, if not then its unethical.
in the name of so called “hamperring of freedom” they want to have sexual pleasures,those who can not go to red light areas or there ego confronts them actually evolved this methods of satisfying there sexual needs.
So where and whats the problem in it. I think you are not getting an opportunity that why you are feeling so isolated.
Harshad Joshi 4:19 am on November 6, 2008 Permalink |
@Satan
What you mentioned happens everywhere, only some things are exposed by media, depending on their need while some are not..
peace 6:24 pm on November 12, 2008 Permalink |
guys forget it, its no use fighting about things that have happened. Laws are made & they are modified. Its up to us how we make the best use of it. And if we cant benefit from it, then damn the law. Do what u feel is right, as long as it doesnt harm anyone….
Priyadarshini Rana 5:16 pm on November 23, 2008 Permalink |
@satan
i second u. If a live-in-relationship goes wrong,anyone can simply walk outwithout much familial & no legal pressures.
Many people strongly connoted it encourages sexual promiscuity & infidelity. It would be good to ask them, if the sense of responsibility in an Indian marriage includes sexual responsibility.
Another prevelant belief of live-in-relationships fostering insecurity,particularly in women. One wonders if the most socially accepted ideas in India regarding women make them feel secure in any manner. The idea of women’s security itself is gendered.
parekh 3:59 pm on November 25, 2008 Permalink |
indian history depends on script and culture, so there is no need of act lik livein relationship
rameshraju 7:36 am on May 26, 2009 Permalink |
India has strongest family system in the world, only because of its rich culture and traditions. In Indian culture, marriage binds man and woman together through out life. The marriage institution is connected with ethics, epics, morals and emotions etc. But the high-salaries, growth of liberty, women empowerment, domestic violence, dowry harrasments, extra-marital affairs, and disinterest towards relgious epics are increasing the divorce rates in India.
As a result the youth are adapting Live in relationships. Infact, Live in relationship kills Indian rich culture and tradition. It is the high-tech adultery whch does not need any commitment and sacriment in Livein relationships. It is a conditional relationship which is free of religious rituals, ethics and morals. It is very fragile that it can break up at any point of time, even after having kids. The blood relations in it are uncertain. In western countries, there is no proper culture and family system and they change their spouses like changing clothes daily. I cannot appreciate MH government in its decision. If live-in-relationships are legalised, the marriage institution in india vanishes soon and India will go to dogs. If it is legalised, then public prostitution is no wrong.
virgo 9:41 am on November 29, 2009 Permalink |
dear sir,
There are lots of advantages and disadvantages of live in relation between man and woman.
it is very true that a woman is always insecured this relationship,
but at time,and certain situations live in relationship can help.
The hindu culture which does not allow a widow or a seperated woman to remarry,in these situations either she is misled or misused by the society,at times they accept to become a call girl also.
I feel its better to accept a live in relation than being a call girl.
atleast she is with one person to take care off.
live in relation may also help women who are not married, above middle age,lost time due to various difficulties and reasons of marriage of culture/religion/rituals/rasi/dosha etc.
and women who need a male companion at later ages.because cannot help anyone but society will always like to pock their noses and interfere in others problems
regards
virgoperfect@hotmail.com
virgo 9:50 am on November 29, 2009 Permalink |
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dear sir,
There are lots of advantages and disadvantages of live in relation between man and woman.
it is very true that a woman is always insecured this relationship,
but at times,and certain situations live in relationship can help.
The hindu culture which does not allow a widow or a seperated woman to remarry,in these situations either she is either misled or misused by the so called society which does not accept live in relation,situation forces a helpless woman to accept to become a call girl also at times.
I feel its better to accept a live in relation than being a call girl.prostitute etc
atleast she is with one person to take care off her.
live in relation may also help women who are not married, above middle age,lost time due to various difficulties and reasons of marriage , culture/religion/rituals/rasi/dosha/age etc.
and women who need a male companion at later ages for moral support. the so called society cannot help anyone, but society will always like to pock their noses and interfere in others problems.
regards
virgoperfect@hotmail.com
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Harshad Joshi 7:44 am on December 22, 2009 Permalink |
Chill…I can assume what you are saying might be the best solution of this problem/situation etc, but alas, I am unable to comprehend it, as its an unrelated term I am unclear of. I have no idea if its right/wrong/unlogical/evil/good etc.
Sorry for that, but still, as of today this matter is in ice pack and fortunately/unfortunately we dont have any takers for this..